I have a quick temper. While I can control my anger most of the time, I find it happens frequently. The thing is, emotions are there to reveal important information that wants to make itself known. Any extreme emotion can be a tool for learning. The reverse is also true. Lack of emotion can be meaningful.
Recently, my husband said he needed to call the bank because he had somehow missed a payment on a small loan we had taken out. Normally such information would send me through the roof, but my response was to ask how late it was and talk to him in a very calm, rational manner. This is not normal for me--quite odd actually.
Ironically, he called the bank and discovered that the bank was in error. Needless to say, I was happy to hear that. It was easily set right and the late fee was erased.
What strikes me about the whole experience was this: I felt tremendous calm in a situation that normally would have seen me wanting to act like a lunatic. Why? It was because my heart and body understood the truth--that there was no problem and no reason to move into action! In this case, my lack of anger was telling because there was nothing wrong.
The more information we collect on our emotions--things like when they occur and don't occur, the more likely we are to understand the messages in our emotions. For example, if my husband should at some future point mention a late payment notice again and I feel my anger rising, I'll understand there is something that requires my immediate attention. No emotion means all is well, continue on the path.
As we continue on the journey of connection to heart, know that our emotions are there to alert and support us. Learn to become aware of the messages they give and the path will be much less bumpy and strained.
~CSE
Recently, my husband said he needed to call the bank because he had somehow missed a payment on a small loan we had taken out. Normally such information would send me through the roof, but my response was to ask how late it was and talk to him in a very calm, rational manner. This is not normal for me--quite odd actually.
Ironically, he called the bank and discovered that the bank was in error. Needless to say, I was happy to hear that. It was easily set right and the late fee was erased.
What strikes me about the whole experience was this: I felt tremendous calm in a situation that normally would have seen me wanting to act like a lunatic. Why? It was because my heart and body understood the truth--that there was no problem and no reason to move into action! In this case, my lack of anger was telling because there was nothing wrong.
The more information we collect on our emotions--things like when they occur and don't occur, the more likely we are to understand the messages in our emotions. For example, if my husband should at some future point mention a late payment notice again and I feel my anger rising, I'll understand there is something that requires my immediate attention. No emotion means all is well, continue on the path.
As we continue on the journey of connection to heart, know that our emotions are there to alert and support us. Learn to become aware of the messages they give and the path will be much less bumpy and strained.
~CSE
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