Allowing Pain

Many of us make our choices in life based on avoiding pain. We run away. We ignore. We distract ourselves with other activities. What we fail to consider is the benefit pain can bring. Pain does not have to be the terrible thing our minds have created it to be.

When you choose to look at and explore your pain, it is very much like intentionally stepping into a fire. Yes. The fire is hot and unpleasant. In our minds the fire is consuming--devouring. We fear that stepping into the fire will literally kill us and turn us to ash.

The real process is much different. The fire is not designed to destroy us. The fire is designed to refine us. We are very much like precious metal. When the metal is placed into the fire, it melts and changes shape. Impurities are burned off. What is left is a much more perfect and pliable substance, capable of fitting in to places it would never have fit into before.

Allowing pain is all part of the perfecting process. It helps us let go of things that no longer serve us. It can change our focus and enable  us proceed in a new direction. It can even help us let go of ego so that we are better able to connect to our hearts and to Oneness. When have taken the time to allow our pain and make peace with it, progress is made. We are different. Changed. New.

Take the time to sit with pain in your own life. Allow yourself to feel it. Cry. Throw a tantrum. Do what needs to be done to accept it, make peace with it, and move on. By allowing pain, you take down the walls you have created to keep you "safe" and allow the energy to flow once again.

~CSE

 

    

The Refiner's Fire

I had a breakfast appointment with a friend the other day. This particular friend and I have a lot in common because we share the experience of having been divorced. Both of us suffered forms of suppression and abuse in those relationships, and both of us seemed to have learned a great deal from our suffering. What hit me was that there are some very powerful lights here on Earth who apparently agreed to such a life before coming here.

We discussed the idea of being marked--bringing such light into our reality that darkness is attracted to it. Indeed, this is the way our world operates. It's sort of moth to a flame with the moth equating to the darkness. The only way that darkness can be transformed is by approaching the light, often to the point of being consumed by it.

We also talked about marriage to unequal partners and the fact that marrying someone who is not your equal can bring you down. Ending the relationship helps, but at what cost? It took me years of rebuilding to get back to my former self. I remember going in to the relationship knowing I was stronger and believing I had enough strength to help my partner through it. The thing is, you cannot fix someone who does not want to be fixed.

As I chatted with my friend, I realized the mutual theme here was the suppression of the divine feminine. Life on planet Earth has been about squashing all those qualities that are sacred in the feminine--intuition, caretaking, and unconditional love--qualities of the heart that women are so often drawn to. Even the rise of feminism has managed to suppress this divine feminine spirit as these heart qualities are ruled over by the more masculine powers of the mind. It isn't about bringing out the feminine. It's about becoming masculine to succeed in a very masculine world.

Those women like myself who have gone through this process of overcoming suppression have been sent through a refiner's fire. It's a process of cleaning out all that negativity and leaving the pure feminine heart intact. The gold that lies within can then be seen in all its strength, glory and power.

Arise from your graves and allow that light within to shine for the world to see. It is the refining process that has made you better! It is the refining process that makes you whole!

~CSE