Happiness Depends On Where You Focus!

Like many of you, there has been tremendous upheaval in my life during the past few of months. For the past three and a half years, I have been responsible for exactly half of the upbringing of my granddaughter, who is the bright spot in my life. (The other half has been the responsibility of her other grandmother). Now that my husband has been diagnosed with early dementia and can no longer handle the responsibility of helping me take care of her, most of her care has been placed into the hands of her other grandmother. While I very much appreciate the fact that she is in capable and responsible hands, I feel very much as though I have lost her. To make matters worse, there is not a damn thing I can do about it without creating more devastation in my life.

So many questions and "what-if's" have been running through my head. Why am I and my husband going through this journey of dementia now? Why am I still in a job with such inconsistent hours and lousy pay? Why does my granddaughter need to be wretched away from me as she has? What if my financial and living situation changed into something where I would be able to take more consistent care of my granddaughter? And on and on ad nauseam. 

Notice the focus of the above questions: it is always about me. While my husband and granddaughter are mentioned, my questions do not look at the challenges they are facing. They do not take into account their needs throughout this process, and that is the problem!

The fact of the matter is, my granddaughter still needs fulltime care. My present work schedule is just not conducive to a toddler's needs. If truth be known, caring for my granddaughter has gotten more stressful under the present circumstances. Even when she is with me I know I am not at my best. It feels selfish and wrong to try to insist that she spend more time with me right now. As much as I hate to admit it, I am not what she needs right now. Her other grandmother is.

I am what my husband needs right now (as incapable as I feel). As I help him deal with the change, I also need to adapt myself and my life so that when he is no longer capable of helping I can make sure that all of our needs, financial and otherwise, are met. 

The irony of this whole situation is that I have been praying for major change in my life for at least a year now. I don't want to have to rely on the income I bring in from a dead-end job. I don't want to struggle to get by. I would like to wake up every morning with a smile on my face, knowing that my income is being brought to me through serving others with my talents and gifts in ways that heal the planet. I like to talk about how pain is part of the transition process toward better things, and yet when the pain is at my doorstep I holler just as loudly as the next guy!

When I focus on losing my granddaughter, I am miserable. It is only when I think about her needs that I am able to understand that my life needs to be about something different at present. I have enough on my plate with my husband's health and my job situation. My husband definitely needs me to be on top of things for his sake right now.

It is only when I begin to understand my role in the collective that I am once again able to see the light. I am able to let go of the whys and the what-ifs and free myself, knowing I have a role to play and allowing others to play theirs. I will get where I need to go. All is right in the world.

~CSE

Get Grounded And Focus On The Prize!!!

I often use my own life as a barometer of sorts to gauge what is going on in the rest of the world. Strong empathy can often be internalized and manifest in the empath's own life. What I'm getting for myself (and for you) is to get grounded and focus on the prize!!!

There are so many distractions surrounding us. Entertainments to dull the mind. Fears over perceived threats of terrorism and potential government coups. Busy schedules that keep us occupied running on the hamster wheel. This combination is enough to cause overwhelm in the average person.

What do I mean by get grounded and focus on the prize? Now more than ever, it is important to get a handle on your thoughts and emotions. We do this by focusing in on the heart. We do this by taking the time to remember that infinite connection we have with God/Source, Mother Earth, and all of creation. If you have a particular meditation or activity you like to engage in, now is the time to use it!!! If you are still new to the process or need some ideas to connect, you can read over one easy process (Connecting To Heart) or connect to my blog page titled "Getting Started". Find some uplifting music to listen to. Take a walk in the woods or on the beach. Watch the sunrise or sunset. Do whatever it takes to calm your mind and listen to that still small voice of the One within!

It is important that we not get lost in the details of events taking place around us. This is how we lose ourselves to fear. This is how we lose ourselves to thoughtlessness. The stakes are high for the powers that be right now. They are pulling out all the stops in order to try to maintain their control. Understand this: They are LOSING!!! The more we are able to connect to the Oneness within our own hearts, the less likely they will be to continue to control us. We can be strong. We will not be moved.

Once you are grounded, focus on the prize!!! Hold on to that view of the world you want to see manifested!!! Envision the world as it exists free from poverty, disease, and violence. Feel the abundance and peace Mother Earth wants to provide for all of us. This world is on its way, but the more we are able to see it, feel it, even taste it, the more quickly it will appear!!!

The butterfly is indeed emerging from her prison of darkness!!! It is time for her to shake off her shackles, spread her beautiful wings and fly!!! Ground yourself and focus on the prize!!!

~CSE

Focus On Your Own Journey

There is a lot going on in the world. Financial markets are in free fall as the Greek domino falls. False flag events (aka "terrorist" events) seem to occur every other day. So much is going on in our world that it is easy to be distracted by the constant flow of events. As I sit in the quiet of the morning, I very clearly focus on one thought: focus on your own journey.

Even though we are infinitely connected to everything through Oneness, our personal journeys are just that--personal journeys. We are all here to accomplishing previously agreed upon jobs. None of us have the same exact purpose. We are here to act, learn and grow. We are even here to make "mistakes". That is a large part of the learning and growing process.

When we get caught up in what someone else is thinking or feeling or doing, we are no longer focused on our journey. We are focused on theirs. Usually this is accompanied by an unhealthy dose of judgement. The problem with judgement is, it is an unnatural separation process that distracts us from our true purpose.

It is okay to be aware of what is going on in the world around you. It is okay to be aware of what the people around you are experiencing. We can use this information to help us with our own missions. It is when be try to change someone else that we run into problems. It is not our job to change someone else. We change the world by changing ourselves to be better than we were before. We change the world through our example and our actions, not through force or pressure.

Begin each day asking the Universe what you can do in that moment to assist in the planet's evolution. Feel into your heart and focus on those things you can do to bring calm and peace and joy into the situation. Those empaths who are healers can feel into the problems in order to understand where to place that calm and peace and joy. (Note it takes very strong empaths to be able to transform these energies.)

By focusing on what we can create to bring abundance and harmony into the chaos, we will assist the planet in bringing in a new world of peace and prosperity. The more we focus on our own personal journeys, the more quickly we will usher in a new world in which we can all thrive.

~CSE