I have a granddaughter. As a grandparent, I naturally think she is brilliant. She is also almost two and fiercely independent and stubborn. Very often she becomes frustrated by the limitations we place on her in order to keep her safe. As responsible adults, it is up to us to care for our young ones and guide them into the paths that will lead them to becoming successful adults. At least, this is our perception. Is it our job to mold and shape our children? The more I ponder the question, the more unlikely it seems.
I have always believed we were fully formed spirits before we came to this human experience. If that is true, what makes me think I have anything to offer one of these small humans? Yes, it is my responsibility to protect them to the best of my ability. I also believe it is a good thing to nurture them in such a way that their talents and abilities are enhanced. The thing is, children are not globs of clay that need to be twisted and molded into our ways of thinking and our ways of life.
Children are spirits that have come to earth to explore, to create, to experience. They are not smaller versions of ourselves, nor are they extensions of us. Children come to earth with their own life missions and life purposes. They come with jobs to do!
As parents, we often believe good parenting involves helping them learn to cope in society. The thing is, there is a fine line between teaching them the rules and forcing them to become someone they are not. Often our definition of successful parenting is helping them conform.
When I look at my granddaughter, I don't just see a little person who needs training. I see personality. I see emerging talents, skills, and interests. I see unlimited potential--unlimited giftedness. She has a job to do. My job is to not interfere.
Children are here to make their own mark on the world. The question is, will you help them or will you force them into a system that may not be in their best interests? What if part of that child's job is to help you?
Who do you see when you look at a child? The answer may have consequences that extend far past what you currently see. Understand that each soul is a fully formed spirit and work from that place.
~CSE
I have always believed we were fully formed spirits before we came to this human experience. If that is true, what makes me think I have anything to offer one of these small humans? Yes, it is my responsibility to protect them to the best of my ability. I also believe it is a good thing to nurture them in such a way that their talents and abilities are enhanced. The thing is, children are not globs of clay that need to be twisted and molded into our ways of thinking and our ways of life.
Children are spirits that have come to earth to explore, to create, to experience. They are not smaller versions of ourselves, nor are they extensions of us. Children come to earth with their own life missions and life purposes. They come with jobs to do!
As parents, we often believe good parenting involves helping them learn to cope in society. The thing is, there is a fine line between teaching them the rules and forcing them to become someone they are not. Often our definition of successful parenting is helping them conform.
When I look at my granddaughter, I don't just see a little person who needs training. I see personality. I see emerging talents, skills, and interests. I see unlimited potential--unlimited giftedness. She has a job to do. My job is to not interfere.
Children are here to make their own mark on the world. The question is, will you help them or will you force them into a system that may not be in their best interests? What if part of that child's job is to help you?
Who do you see when you look at a child? The answer may have consequences that extend far past what you currently see. Understand that each soul is a fully formed spirit and work from that place.
~CSE
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