I came into contact with the work of Dr. Wayne Dyer over nineteen years ago--around the time I became a single mom. Over the years, his thoughts and words became a source of hope and inspiration for someone who needed frequent help remembering what is important in life. Although I mourn his death, those things he left behind continue to illumine and empower me.
I have watched his movie "The Shift" several times this week. Each time, it has enabled me to see past the expectations I have for myself and my life. Each time, I have a growing awareness of how all the circumstances in my life that seem "bad" are really just there to help me learn. As I become thankful for those same things, my life begins to "shift" in unexpected ways. Blocks that were there because of my expectations of the way things were supposed to be are removed because I no longer see them as problems. I invite them--even encourage them--to come into my life. I don't judge them. I allow them (and that is why they are no longer blocks).
For example, my relationship with my daughter has always been rockier than my relationships with my sons. My daughter is very different from me. I have a tendency to work within society's guidelines, even while being a rebel in my mind. My daughter is definitely someone who marches to her own drummer. For someone as perfectionistic as I am, having a daughter who does not do things the way society deems them appropriate has been difficult.
However, after immersing myself in the thoughts and feelings "The Shift" brings out, I am looking at my relationship with her in a whole new light. Instead of seeing her rebellion and problems as negative things, I am beginning to perceive them as part of her growth and, inevitably, part of mine. The really cool part is, as I leave the struggle--the block--behind, my daughter's anger and frustration are decreasing. As I no longer feel like I am responsible for her and allow her to be more responsible for herself, she is growing in her ability to be responsible. We still have a ways to go, but things are changing for the better. While I don't expect things to be perfect, I do expect the problems that show up to be there in utter perfection.
Dr. Dyer's quote is really true! "If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change." When you begin to see the world's problems in their infinite perfection and become thankful for what they can teach you, the problems have a way of working themselves out. They are no longer problems but tools for growth and development!
When you change your perceptions, you change your outcomes. The power has always been within.
~CSE
I have watched his movie "The Shift" several times this week. Each time, it has enabled me to see past the expectations I have for myself and my life. Each time, I have a growing awareness of how all the circumstances in my life that seem "bad" are really just there to help me learn. As I become thankful for those same things, my life begins to "shift" in unexpected ways. Blocks that were there because of my expectations of the way things were supposed to be are removed because I no longer see them as problems. I invite them--even encourage them--to come into my life. I don't judge them. I allow them (and that is why they are no longer blocks).
For example, my relationship with my daughter has always been rockier than my relationships with my sons. My daughter is very different from me. I have a tendency to work within society's guidelines, even while being a rebel in my mind. My daughter is definitely someone who marches to her own drummer. For someone as perfectionistic as I am, having a daughter who does not do things the way society deems them appropriate has been difficult.
However, after immersing myself in the thoughts and feelings "The Shift" brings out, I am looking at my relationship with her in a whole new light. Instead of seeing her rebellion and problems as negative things, I am beginning to perceive them as part of her growth and, inevitably, part of mine. The really cool part is, as I leave the struggle--the block--behind, my daughter's anger and frustration are decreasing. As I no longer feel like I am responsible for her and allow her to be more responsible for herself, she is growing in her ability to be responsible. We still have a ways to go, but things are changing for the better. While I don't expect things to be perfect, I do expect the problems that show up to be there in utter perfection.
Dr. Dyer's quote is really true! "If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change." When you begin to see the world's problems in their infinite perfection and become thankful for what they can teach you, the problems have a way of working themselves out. They are no longer problems but tools for growth and development!
When you change your perceptions, you change your outcomes. The power has always been within.
~CSE
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