I'm going to say something a little controversial, but hear me out. We have a tendency to believe that forgiveness is something we do for someone else--that having forgiveness miraculously bestows some tremendous blessing or favor on whomever or whatever has betrayed us. The fact of the matter is, we don't forgive in order to benefit others. We forgive to benefit ourselves!
Our society has forgiveness all wrong. Forgiveness is not about righting a wrong. It is not about absolving someone of their sin. By offering forgiveness we are not letting someone else get away with wrongdoing. Forgiveness is about letting go of blocked or stagnant energy.
Let's break down a situation where forgiveness is required. Pretend your significant other cheats on you with another person. You feel hurt, used, neglected. You stop trusting. Immediately a wall comes up between yourself and this person who has harmed you. You are the one who has put the wall in place in order to shield yourself from further betrayal. What you have essentially done is blocked the flow of energy between yourself and your significant other. You are also choosing to hold on to the pain of the situation by keeping the action within the forefront your mind.
Who is hurt by holding on to pain? The person holding the pain! Somehow we convince ourselves we are hurting the other person back by holding onto this pain. While acting and feeling hurt will sometimes make the offender feel guilt or remorse, more often than not it has little or no effect on them.
There are times when we are so upset about the pain we lash out in retaliation. This is where the laws of karma come around and bite you back. Ultimately, we cling to the hurt so tightly we end up victimizing ourselves even more.
When we choose forgiveness, it is not about allowing the offender to get away with something harmful. Forgiveness is the choice we make to let go of the pain. It does not require that you take the offender back into close association. It may not be in your best interest to pick up where you left off as the offender will not have changed in any substantial way. Forgiveness allows you to forge ahead in a more positive state of mind as you let go of your energetic block.
Forgiveness is not something we do for others. Forgiveness is something we do to benefit ourselves and our own lives. It allows us to take down the walls created by pain and move beyond them, enabling ourselves to be the powerful creators of our lives we were designed to be.
~CSE
Our society has forgiveness all wrong. Forgiveness is not about righting a wrong. It is not about absolving someone of their sin. By offering forgiveness we are not letting someone else get away with wrongdoing. Forgiveness is about letting go of blocked or stagnant energy.
Let's break down a situation where forgiveness is required. Pretend your significant other cheats on you with another person. You feel hurt, used, neglected. You stop trusting. Immediately a wall comes up between yourself and this person who has harmed you. You are the one who has put the wall in place in order to shield yourself from further betrayal. What you have essentially done is blocked the flow of energy between yourself and your significant other. You are also choosing to hold on to the pain of the situation by keeping the action within the forefront your mind.
Who is hurt by holding on to pain? The person holding the pain! Somehow we convince ourselves we are hurting the other person back by holding onto this pain. While acting and feeling hurt will sometimes make the offender feel guilt or remorse, more often than not it has little or no effect on them.
There are times when we are so upset about the pain we lash out in retaliation. This is where the laws of karma come around and bite you back. Ultimately, we cling to the hurt so tightly we end up victimizing ourselves even more.
When we choose forgiveness, it is not about allowing the offender to get away with something harmful. Forgiveness is the choice we make to let go of the pain. It does not require that you take the offender back into close association. It may not be in your best interest to pick up where you left off as the offender will not have changed in any substantial way. Forgiveness allows you to forge ahead in a more positive state of mind as you let go of your energetic block.
Forgiveness is not something we do for others. Forgiveness is something we do to benefit ourselves and our own lives. It allows us to take down the walls created by pain and move beyond them, enabling ourselves to be the powerful creators of our lives we were designed to be.
~CSE
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