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Showing posts with label Problems. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Problems. Show all posts

Saturday, June 25, 2016

Our Hope For The Future

As a conspiracy theorist, I am usually suspicious of all things mainstream. Greed and corruption hide around every corner as the very rich become even richer and the middle class and poor become much poorer. Regardless of what the media reports about a growing economy, my eyes still see the homes of people I know going into foreclosure, my ears still hear the tales of full-time, well-paying jobs with benefits being cut in favor of temporary work forces and outsourcing to foreign countries. My brain no longer accepts the "facts" the status quo tries to lay out for me. They don't coincide with my personal experiences.

I have looked at the problems long enough I understand one thing: nothing will change until we are willing to stand together as a people and make change happen. It is not enough to turn a blind eye to the problems and believe that everything will just work out. We have to take personal responsibility for the conditions of our country and our world and be willing to come up with plans to make it better.

Although I see people around my age waking up to the world's problems, my generation has issues. We are so used to sitting back and allowing others to "handle" our problems we have become lazy. In such a scenario, it is incredibly easy for those who desire power to come in and take over. It wouldn't be a problem if those who desired power had integrity. Unfortunately, power positions do not often attract people with integrity. We have allowed those in power to twist our system into one that benefits only a chosen few and rewards their little lapdogs who have been trained in our cookie cutter educational system to follow orders and do the heavy work.

The really crazy thing is, the people of my generation often denigrate the kids and young adults of today. The younger generation is called "lazy" and "socialist" and is accused of wanting something for nothing. Truthfully, the whole attitude pisses me off because when I look at the kids and young adults of today, I see our hope for the future. That's right! I said it! Our young people are our hope for the future!

As I look back on my life, I see how relatively easy I had it. Growing up, my father was the only one who worked outside the home. He could pay all the expenses for our family of five--mortgage, cars, insurance, utilities, food, clothing, extra-curricular activities, vacations, etc. We were encouraged to go to college. Most of us had our college paid for by our parents. We got out of college and were pretty much assured of being offered better pay and careers than our high school only peers, even if the job wasn't within our major.

It is totally different for this new generation. Most everyone grew up in daycare as both parents needed to work to pay the same bills that were so easy for our fathers to pay on their single salaries. Profound debt became increasingly common as inflation outpaced pay increases. Kids today are still encouraged to attend college--which they typically go into lifetime debt for--although they are no longer assured there will be good jobs waiting for them when they finish. Many of them end up living in their parents basements or with several other roommates because the minimum wage jobs they find don't even come close to paying their living expenses. These young people understand that something stinks because life has not been particularly easy on them. What I find appalling is that people of my generation turn around and call these kids "lazy" because they can't do today what life allowed us to do easily when we were their age! It's a totally different ballgame, folks!!! The rules have changed. They've just changed so gradually it is difficult for us older people to see the differences.

The bright spot about how these young people have grown up is this: they have never seen the world through our own distorted rose-colored glasses. They are not blinded to the problems. Consequently, they see the need for change and are much more willing to take the initiative to change it themselves! They attend rallies. They get out on the streets and protest the inequities! They are active in the political process. Best of all, these young people have heart. They see deficiencies that need to be filled and they are willing to do the work. Granted, there are exceptions, but most of the young people I know give me hope because they are willing to stand in the gap and accept responsibility for what happens in our world.

It is time for people of my generation to see what the younger generation has always known--the world needs fixing! Get up off your butts, take some responsibility for what happens, and DO some fixing! If you need ideas to get started, just look to the young people. They truly are our hope for the future!

~CSE  


Wednesday, March 9, 2016

Acceptance

There are days when unpleasant realities are unavoidable. Today was one of those days. As much as I'd like to change certain circumstances in my own life, they are not mine to change. Tears set in as I saw and acknowledged the pain being experienced by myself and those around me because of the actions of others. The only thing I can do in this moment is accept the situation and move on.

We are taught in this reality that we can fix our problems. I believe that. What we can't fix is someone else. Their problems are theirs alone. It is ultimately their responsibility to work things out for themselves as they see fit, not as we see fit.

Quite often, we go about trying to fix our own problems by fixing someone else's. We try to force them into the same ways of doing things that help us solve our own problems. Then we get frustrated when they don't "get it".

I cannot force the people around me to change. What I can do is change myself. Acceptance is key to this process. I take off my rose-colored glasses and look at the reality of my situation. While it may not be pretty, there is much I can do with it. I can be there to support and love those who need my presence. I can live each moment, doing what I can to follow my heart and my bliss. My happiness is not dependent on the actions of others.

Flow comes when we don't try to force things. Trying to control others is a game we cannot hope to win because everyone has free will. The best we can do is try to be an example and hope that those we come into contact with are able to see a life well-lived and follow suit. Our lives become easier and more abundant when we learn to accept what IS instead of trying to change it.

~CSE
     

Saturday, February 13, 2016

Dropping Ego

We are all aware of what the word ego means. The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines ego as "the self, especially as contrasted with another self or the world." What strikes me about this definition of ego is that it is based in separation. Ego is the individual you when separated from everything else. Why would we need to drop ego at this critical time? We need to drop ego because the problems we have in the world today have been created within a state of separation.

When I look at my own ego, I see problems. It's my ego that gets offended when someone treats me poorly. If I allow myself to stay in ego instead of reverting back to my BEing (that is joined with Oneness), I will act out aggressively instead of understanding their poor treatment is the result of the abuses they themselves have suffered at the hands of others acting through ego. It's my own ego that seeks to build itself up instead of acknowledging the value and worth of others. This, in turn, feeds into all the other separation that is in the world. While ego has been necessary to experience duality in a conscious way, we have come to a point in time where it has created enough separation we will destroy the planet. We need to get ego under control if we are to survive.

Dropping ego requires opening the heart and living from that place. This is because our hearts are what connect us to Oneness. Oneness is the space where the illusion of separation is shattered. It is within Oneness that the solutions we seek for our dying world come to light because everything exists there. All information is accessible. It is from the heart that we understand what is necessary for the health and well-being of the whole.

We cannot solve problems through the same thinking that created them. It is in ego the problems were created in the first place. It is time to drop the separation mindset. It is time to drop the ego and learn to live together as One.

~CSE

Wednesday, February 3, 2016

The Difference Between Victim And Victor

You see them everywhere: victims and victors. Some people seemingly go through life with a black cloud overhead. Other people appear to waltz through life easily, without any major bumps along the way. While the circumstances of both look like a matter of luck, the difference has nothing to do with luck. The difference between victim and victor is responsibility.

Victims play the game of everything being the fault of someone else. Victims never deserve what happens to them. They just happen to be in the wrong place at the wrong time and the people with the real power take advantage. The fact of the matter is, if you believe yourself to be powerless to change your circumstances, you are powerless. You become the victim at every turn.

Victors are very different. It isn't that bad things don't happen to them. Bad things happen to everyone. Victors have a unique mindset. Instead of sitting back and watching things happen, they take responsibility and take control. When something bad happens, they look at the situation and say, "What can I do to change this?" They then begin to take corrective action. They may not be successful on the first or even the hundredth attempt. They just keep trying different things until they hit upon an idea that works. While it appears that victors have an easy life, they have just learned to take responsibility for what happens to them. They roll with the punches and do not let the negative get them down for long.

Do you feel in control of your life, or are you enslaved by the actions of others? Only you can save yourself. Accept responsibility for what happens in your life and you will transition from victim to victor.

~CSE




    

Sunday, January 3, 2016

Tools For Quieting The Mind


As we begin the New Year, I am reminded there are many who are still searching for meditation methods that work for them. One of the most important aspects of meditation is quieting the mind in order to hear the thoughts and ideas that come from the Void that is Source energy. In today's world, information comes at us at such a rapid rate it can be difficult to close ourselves off from that extraneous noise. Here are a few of the tools I use to help myself unplug from the thoughts of the world and quiet my mind!

Tools For Quieting The Mind:
  1. Exercise. While this may sound strange, exercise is one of my go-to's when it comes to quieting the mind. Whether you are into stretching, cardio, or muscle building, exercise is a great way to relieve stress and tension. The repetitive motions help synchronize the two hemispheres of your brain and make it go into an alpha brainwave state, which puts you in a calm, relaxed frame of mind.
  2. Music. Calm, soothing music--especially music you are familiar with and enjoy--can also bring the brain into synchronization and create brainwave states that relax and help clear your mind. If you are musical, singing or playing a musical instrument can also help.
  3. Hobbies. Whether you are artistic, like to cook, restore old cars or enjoy solving math problems, spending time in a hobby relieves stress and brings happiness and enjoyment that helps calm your brain.
  4. Making Lists. Sometimes, writing down a list of all the things  you need to do or even a list of your problems frees up your mind. Many occasions, your mind continues to dwell on stressors so that you will not forget to take care of them. This is why you can't seem to get things out of your head. When you make a concrete list, you give your brain the internal signal that it no longer needs to remember because you have a written reminder to use later.
  5. Visualization. If you are a visual and imaginative person, you can use your imagination to visualize emptying your mind. For example, imagine a ball of light or an angel beside you. Picture this light being siphoning off all the dark, negative energy inside you. You could also picture your spiritual mentor (like Jesus or Buddha) standing beside you, accepting all your problems and burdens and offering to take them away from you. Understand that any scenario you come up with that helps relieve your mind of its problems is what you need to work toward.
There are many things you can do to quiet you mind and make it easier to connect directly to Source energy. Allow yourself the time you need to take care of self and quieting the mind becomes much easier.

~CSE
  

Monday, October 5, 2015

The Blessing In The Struggle

There are times when I look back at things that happened in my life and think, "This would have made excellent material for a soap opera!" There was the time I spent in a cult, fortunately escaping before the leader got put on death row for killing other cult members. There was the time I lost my firstborn child to a terrible infection shortly after she was born. Then there was my divorce and all the years I spent as a single mom, going through the struggles of raising three kids on my own, two of whom had special needs. Yes, soap opera material for sure!

Even though I make the above statement in a tongue-in-cheek sort of way, I definitely had my share of very real struggles. Oddly enough, I no longer see those experiences as struggles though. I see them as blessings.

Each one of those experiences gave me valuable insights into myself, other people and life. Having to wade through the muck forced me to look for new ways of doing things because my old ways of doing things were not effective in those situations. The effort it took to get through such experiences made me much stronger than I was before.

When I look back at all the experiences of my life--both positive and negative, one thing stands out. The high points always felt good (thrilling even), but their only real value was as respite from the storm. It was the low points where I actually grew, becoming a better, stronger, more capable person.

How you view your struggles is your choice. I choose to see my struggles as opportunities for growth and progress. There are blessings in the struggle when you choose to see them and use them to forge new pathways in your life.

~CSE

Saturday, August 29, 2015

It Isn't About You!!!

It happens to everyone. A friend or coworker says or does something hurtful, and we stand back wondering what we did to merit such action. We may end up feeling sad or angry or, at times, just confused. Sometimes it upsets us so much we say or do things we regret later. There is one thought that keeps me sane at times like these: it is not about me!

People act on what they know. If you grow up in a family that speaks their minds and fights all the time, it will feel natural to treat everyone else that way. Years ago, I had a coworker that was quite aggressive. If she didn't like something you were doing she would let you know in no uncertain terms. Many days I felt like I was in the crosshairs because we were so different. The funny thing was, another girl began working with us that was exactly like her. While the rest of us didn't really care to hang out with either one of them, they became fast friends. They fought and bickered between themselves, and that was okay because that's what they were used to.

I encounter many people in my customer service job who are abrupt and difficult. Sometimes they are just in a hurry and need help finding something so they can be on their way again. Sometimes they are not feeling well, but junior needs khakis for his band concert tomorrow night, so there they are at the store when they would rather just be in bed. There are many other reasons they might act in disrespectful ways. I don't take it personally. Being sensitive and a good listener, I can usually feel they are in pain. I do what I can to help, often times making them feel a little better.

There are occasions where something I do seems to send someone else over the edge. This is because my action has reminded them of something someone else has done to them in the past and it triggers an automated sort of response. I call these trigger points, and when I encounter them personally I know there is an issue I need to look at and work on. Understand that most people are not ready to deal with their issues and will act out on them instead.

What I try to remember is this: people act out for many different reasons, and it is not about me. It is really all about them! It is their experience, their issue, their life! It is not right or wrong. It is part of their learning experience and something they are dealing with in the moment of now.

Don't make their problem about you. You have enough to deal with without taking on additional responsibility. The only person you can truly fix is yourself. Respect them enough to allow them to fix their own problems. It isn't about you!!!

~CSE
    

Monday, April 13, 2015

Ignoring Problems Will Not Make Them Go Away!!!

I have a lot of friends who believe you have to focus on what you want (instead of what you don't want) if you want to make good things happen in your life. While I believe this Law of Attraction principle, I also believe those who focus purely on the "good" are also missing something. Fact of the matter is, ignoring problems does not make them go away.

"Oh! But if you focus on what is wrong with something you'll get more of what's wrong!" Yes. If you spend all your time dwelling on the problem it will probably continue. How then can we get beyond the problem and into the love and light portion of the program? We need to recognize the problem and then ask what we can do to solve the problem! The key is to focus on the solution!!!

Asking questions is one of the best tools we have for overcoming obstacles. The question is what enables us to see new perspectives. What is the problem? Why is it a problem? Is there a way around it? Can we use this problem as a stepping stone to better places? What other ways are there to look at this problem? As you ask questions with an open heart, you begin to access new information. Solutions become available to those who ask for them!!!

Problems are actually a huge part of the learning and growth process. They challenge us to think in new ways. They force us to think outside the comfort of our well-worn boxes. If you don't have problems, you probably aren't growing much either.

Problems are a part of life, whether you choose to see them or not. Recognizing a problem will help you if you allow it to be used as a jumping off point to new adventures. The key is to focus on potential solutions. That way, you are in a positive, creation mode, which will enable you to get closer to those things you actually do want.

You can both recognize a problem while working to fix it all at the same time!!! It's the best way I know of to create a better world!!!

~CSE